DIVORCE, ADULTERY, REMARRIAGE
There is a lot of confusion and false teaching regarding, Divorce, Adultery and Remarriage, and we must be very careful to not go contrary to what God states in His Word. Unfortunately, many people are living contrary to what God states. Many people and teachers believe that whenever there is adultery and fornication, that divorce is justified; that is not what the Bible teaches. Rom. 7:2-3, for the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress, though she be married to another man.” The woman is bound by God’s law to the husband as long as he is alive. There is no “exception clause” which many Christians say when divorce is permitted. God still considers them married. Therefore, if they divorce and remarry, God calls that adultery. This is also stated in is 1 Cor, 7:39, “The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.”
These passages are key foundation scriptures on divorce, and yet most people and teachers are not familiar with them. Consequently, most people who get a divorce are doing it outside of God’s will and the divorce is not justifiable in God’s eyes. This is not my interpretation, but is what God states in his Word.
But many people say that Jesus taught people can get a divorce because of adultery. Here is that scripture Matt. 19:9, And I say unto you, whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. It seems this scripture is in contradiction to Rom. 7:39 and 1 Cor. 7:39. Jesus would never contradict His Word, so, how do we Biblically rectify these scripture without twisting them. God provides a justifiable reason to divorce, but it’s not what most people think.
What the Word says, is what it means. Therefore, to make sure we are living in God’s will, we need to properly understand what God says. It is imperative to look at the Key scriptures (covered in this Website) and to see them in their context, and with other related scriptures. When this is done, then we can have a clear picture, and not a partial understanding of what the Word says about Divorce, Adultery, and Remarriage. Each section (except the one on Hope), builds upon the previous ones, so it is very important to read the sections in sequence.
Many related scriptures will be presented here. When you see them in their context, you will see that some some major areas of what many people believe is contrary to what the Word says. For example, when there is adultery in marriage, Jesus does not say that is a reason for divorce. Other related scriptures verify this. God can bring healing and a restore joyous marriage, even if only 1-spouse desire marriage restoration.
God is the author of marriage, and not a “Justice of the Peace” or a Minister. Gen 2:24, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” Matt 19:5-6, “And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? 6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” God doesn’t want divorce, and He hates it. Mal 2:15-16, “And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. 16 For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the Lord of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.” (All scriptures cited are from the KJV).
The Devil Wants Divorce
The devil hates Marriage, and like any good thing God has ordained, he wants to destroy it in divorce, and or create havoc in the marriage. John 10:10, “The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.” The real enemy in many or perhaps most troubled marriages is the devil and not the spouse. He actively pits one spouse against the other. However, the devil did come in from an open door, but we can close the door (‘s) and command the devil to leave.
God is a God of Restoration, and this also applies when a Christian couple gets a divorce. You will see that God desires your covenant marriage to be restored; no matter how hopeless it may appear. No circumstance or situation is too difficult for God. If one or both of you have remarried, and your covenant spouse is alive, the Bible gives clear direction that God can restore your covenant marriage to a peaceful and blessed marriage. Jer. 32:17, “Ah Lord God! behold, thou hast made the heaven and the earth by thy great power and stretched out arm, and there is nothing too hard for thee:” You can trust the Lord. Prov. 3:5-6, “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. 6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.” God can take a very bad situation and turn it around for good. Rom 8:28, “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.” God desires to pour out His Love upon your marriage to such an overwhelming amount that you will be so amazed. God’s plan is a Restored Marriage filled with His Love, and a supernatural love between you and your covenant spouse.
Divorce Is Not The Answer, But Restoration
One of the main areas the devil has entered, is in Marriage. Unfortunately, because of sin, or because one or both spouses have not fully surrendered to God, the devil is creating havoc in a great number of marriages. The problem has become so serious, that even in the church the divorce rate is practically the same as outside the Church. This is appalling and we need to get back to God’s plan. Our marriage needs to be an abundance of life that is filled with love, joy, peace, and without discord. This will take place when we make God first place in every area of our life. Mark 12:30-31, “And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment.”
However, the devil wants to continue to destroy marriages, and doesn’t want reconciliation or restoration. God states in Hos. 4:6, “My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge . . .” Many Christians don’t realize that these words are in relation with adultery and divorce (also connected with swearing, lying, killing, and stealing- see Hos. 4:1-5). Christians can no longer afford to be ignorant of what God says about marriage, adultery, divorce, and remarriage.
Many scriptures on divorce, adultery and remarriage will be presented. When you see them in their context, you will see how they fit together in harmony. You will see that when there is adultery in marriage, Jesus does not teach that is a reason for divorce. Other related scriptures verify this. God desires forgiveness and He can bring a restored joyous marriage, even if only one spouse desires a restored marriage.